moving to a new city as a single millennial woman

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Two years ago, I made the decision to move from New York to Nashville, a city I had never been to in a region I had never been to and didn’t really know anything about.

It was a rather spontaneous decision – it took me about 4 weeks from learning about the job opportunity to my move-out date. But ever since I was a little girl, I always knew I wanted to live single & independent in the epicenter of an urban area.

Growing up on Long Island and going to college in Upstate New York, it was quite common for people to move out of my hometown and to a city once they graduated college. But that city was always, unquestionably, New York City. Popular TV shows from my youth like Friends and Sex and the City further solidified this notion. And why not? It was only a short train ride away. Sometimes there were whispers of other Northeast metropolitan areas like Stamford or Boston, but those were outliers. Moving to the South, or generally any region outside the New York metropolitan area, wasn’t super common.

However, I don’t regret it for a moment. Moving to Nashville has been one of the best decisions of my life, and the experience has been extremely rewarding. Nashville has been able to serve me creatively, professionally, and socially. The warmer climate and smaller city size suit my tastes. It’s not perfect, as nothing ever is, but it comes pretty close.

Are you thinking about relocating? Moving solo may seem a bit daunting, especially as a young single woman, but today I’m here to share the notions I adopted to make my transition easier. It wasn’t seamless, but it definitely helped me stay open-minded as I somewhat unknowingly paved a way to a successful new life.

Stop Trying to Make “Your City” Happen

Nashville is a city that, due to its rapid growth from out-of-state transplants, is becoming more and more diverse in ideology, food, and entertainment. But it still stays true to its Southern hospitality and country music roots, which is why people love to move here and visit.

That being said, don’t be quick to try and impose constructs from where you came from in your new place. “In my old city, we used to do it like this and it was much better!” Well, sorry to tell you, but you’re in a new city now. A desire to change something for the better is absolutely fine, but complaining to natives about their lifestyle is not the way to do it. Put yourself in the mindset of being open-minded to adopt your new city’s way of life (more on that later).

Get Your Ducks in a Row

Like I mentioned above, the spontaneity and short notice of my relocation to Nashville made it really exciting. That being said, I think it really helps to prepare for the things that you can, so that you can easily ride out & enjoy the surprises that come with life.

Some ways you can do this are: Visit your new city before your move date (if possible), so you can put a deposit on an apartment – this means getting roommates squared away too, if needed. Change your address with the Post Office. Schedule your start dates for essentials & utilities – electric, water, Internet, insurance.

Please have a new job offer in hand before you move so you don’t have to worry about finances, even if you have a nice nest egg, because you never know what might happen.

Be Comfortable with the Uncomfortable

I believe that pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone is the only real way to grow & mature as a person. But don’t be too quick to pat yourself on the back as soon as you’ve unpacked your hatchback. The move itself is barely the beginning. Now comes the attempt to replicate your old life in a new setting. Or, maybe you want to use this life change as an opportunity to reinvent yourself – and that’s great too! But no matter what type of person you are, this t requires patience, work, (and a little trial and error).

Are you a homebody? Take the time to make your new digs perfect for yourself, even if it means a little renovation. Social butterfly? You’ll need to put yourself out there to meet a new friend group. New experiences, adventures, and  going to help you figure out what your new routine is and be the way that you make this place your new home.

Lastly, remember that your new home isn’t going to ever feel exactly like your old home, and that’s ok. Plus, that’s kind of the whole reason why you made the move, isn’t it?

Follow me on Instagram for daily updates from my life in Nashville – even though I’ve lived here for 2 years now, I’m still always exploring.

 

 

 

 

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